Your Dating Image – What You Need to Know

When you go on a date, what will the other person notice?  Will it be your outfit, your hair, your skin, your weight, your physique, your self-confidence, or your interpersonal skills?  You know the answer already: all of them.  If any one of these is drastically out of balance your date might have the wrong impression and the evening could be less than successful.

Some people like to focus their attention on one aspect of their “look”.  In reality however, your image is made up of multiple components, all of which should impress your date as a unit simultaneously.  Your image reflects what you think about yourself and how you feel you should present yourself in social situations.  That’s why it’s extremely important to remember one of the more frustrating and fundamental rules of dating — that someone else’s perception of you will likely determine how that crucial first date will go. 
The outside world is the ultimate judge of how we look.  The good news is that you will be able to reinvent yourself in multiple ways upgrading and highlighting diverse aspects of your image in order to make a total and highly favorable impression.   I don’t want to create the perception that this is all quick and easy, but small changes in several areas can add up to a big overall difference.  As we work through this makeover it’s important to remember that, while outside changes are often considered superficial, they can have a dramatically positive impact on inner traits like confidence, happiness and physical health.
Your image, how the outside world (and your date) sees you, is composed of multiple components of appearance and behavior.  It is often said that a “first impression” is made in the first three seconds.  Moreover first impressions tend to stick with people a long time and you may not be able to undo errors of image at a future time.  People with public personas or very active social lives are usually “all put together” which means that they have thought about and attended to all of these components before leaving the house. By recognizing the aspects of image that create the overall persona, anyone can take easy steps to release their hidden outgoing and charming selves.
There are five components of your physical appearance that partially determine your image.  These are:
1.    Your weight
2.    Your muscular physique
3.    Your hair
4.    Your skin
5.    Your clothing. 
People who try to improve one and not the others usually are unsuccessful.  It may take a little extra time every day to improve and upgrade areas of weakness, but the payoff in terms of magnetic appeal can be tremendous.  Remember that we are not discussing your human qualities, your knowledge base, your inner spirituality, or any other good traits.  Despite the fact that “you can’t judge a book by its cover” or “appearances are deceiving” we are scrutinized carefully by friends, family, and most importantly someone we hope to get closer too.  We all deal with this reality.  I’m sure you are a very desirable person-but I also want you to look and act desirable. 
There are two components of your behavior that also determine your image.  They are your self-confidence and your interpersonal skills, and these are equally or more important than the appearance components we just discussed.  Your self-confidence will reflect a positive attitude that your date will certainly appreciate.  And good interpersonal skills will make the date an especially memorable experience or even more.  These two components of image are learned behavior, and you are capable of mastering and improving these skills at any time.  Why not do it now? 
To get ready for that important date, think of the process as “inside-out, outside-in” reinvention.  This acknowledges the fact that the various components of your image are interdependent.  For example, putting on sexy clothing immediately changes the way you feel about yourself and perhaps even the way you stand or walk.  By making a “superficial” change in your appearance you automatically radiate more self-confidence.  Conversely when you interact comfortably with someone very attractive, your increased self-confidence will motivate you to attend to various issues like clothing, skincare, and weight.  Change must occur therefore in two directions at the same time, so that physical, emotional, and social improvement is thought of as a single unit, not separate problems to be dealt with sequentially.
You should reinvent your image with attention to all seven components of image simultaneously as you look for companionship and love with someone very desirable, someone you may have felt incapable of meeting previously.  The good qualities that you have today will certainly last you the rest of your life.  By adding to them a newly reinvented and upgraded image, you will create the total package that will generate buzz, appeal, and friendship…and maybe even more.

Tips for First Date

First dates can be pretty scary. Finally, you are a representative of the opposite sex,
the subject you know nothing or almost nothing, for a long time. I personally think
the first date is always nice.

The experience you have with each person only once this respect,
it is something special, even if it never anything serious. The "discovery phase" of
a relationship is the most exciting time. And on the first date there discover a great deal.
Here are a few pointers that may help you are on a first date.
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Show your sense of humor
The best way to break the ice, which normally is present at every first meeting, is humor.
This is not a time for seriousness. They hardly know each other. Get loose and you get others to
laugh, even if you take it yourself for a ride.
Go to different places
When the first meeting anlässt well, you beat calmly before a change of scenery.
Proven to feel more people attracted to each other if they had been together in various places
such as bars, shops, clubs etc..
Have you always resonate some sex
Sometimes, on a first date is a risk that they "only" is the friendship.
Maybe there is some affection, but a real relationship, it is not enough. To prevent this,
you should always bring a little sexual tension into the game. But do not overdo it,
because that could lead to the other uncomfortable. A good tip is to always keep humor.
You can give the date a sexual undertone, but this disguised as harmless humor.

Dating rules

Let us discuss a few dating rules. These rules are obviously not set in stone,
but they can generally be beneficial. The rules are particularly interesting for those new
to the dating world and will help you to survive the first date.

1 Let's take it easy, no complicated arrangements. That means no dinner by candlelight,
no flowers, no stopping and no excessive door somber conversations about the future.
Just be two people who have fun together. Nothing more, nothing less.
2 Keep a back door open. This is especially important if you meet someone you
have met online. Are you planning a first date always so that you can leave it at any time
if it is running very poorly. Meet for a drink or a coffee and prepare it so much so that
the other person know that you only have one hour to the next appointment. Such "events"
can still "magically" disappear when you get on well.
3 Keep your schedule flexible. One of the biggest mistakes in newcomers, the planning of
the conspiracy to take too well. A date is not a class outing. You do not need to know at
every moment what would happen the next moment. Relax, let yourself go and you do not plan
too much. You can get quiet before a few thoughts, but you can run the evening, as he runs.
4th Do not go to the movies. Movies are not really for first appointments. They are not really bad.
If you are extremely shy, it may even be beneficial to spend two hours with someone
without having to talk to. However, I would at the first meeting, if possible, refrain from
the cinema.
5th No dinner for the first time the same as with the cinema, but for another reason.
Ironically, many people believe, the first meeting should be a movie and dinner.
This is just awful! Food is too serious and too personal. To eat with someone whom you barely know,
is unpleasant. Stand out this for later on. At the first appointment, you'd better have a drink.
6th Not overdo it with your wardrobe! Appointments should not be as serious, but fun.
A person's clothing has a major influence on their personality. If someone is dressed very poorly,
 he usually has no self confidence. Extremely well-dressed people often seem arrogant.
Put on just adequate. That means casual, relaxed, but appealing.
7th Humor, humor, humor! The importance of humor when an appointment can not be overemphasized.
People like to spend time with other people who make them laugh. You can look completely average.
If you have a cheerful nature, you will be more popular than any supermodel.
8th No talks on the former or, okay?
9th No big words, please! Do not come to your appointment with an arsenal of cool sayings that
you have read in some silly magazine. That is always lame and transparent. Just relax and be
as you are. If you do not like the others for your own sake, then so be it and you do not have to
keep your time to disappear.
10th Use the name of the other. People like to hear their own name. So instead of saying,
"You are indeed quite a daredevil," say they prefer ". So Catherine, you're quite a daredevil,
" You may, however, do not overdo it. When I started even with the dating, I once told a girl,
she found me strange because I've always said your name. That was embarrassing!
11th Build on others. Pull it down or never. This can be complicated. You should not build
the other by sucking up to. For this you can not expect respect. Give her his opponent just felt
a great person. The best way to achieve this, you give to him or "I am so with you."
You are great, the other is too great, since he or she is with you.
12th No other girls or guys look behind!
13th Treat waiters and bartenders generous, even if you feel they were overpaid and easily
replaced (which is also true). The way you treat people in the service industry,
says a lot about you as a person. Give good tips, please be kind.
Do not expect too much from them and not treat them unfavorably.
14th They do not complain. Point. You complain about absolutely nothing.
People complain they're not particularly popular. The only allowable exception is
for someone else to complain: "What your friend did was not fair to you."
15th Do not expect anything. The fact that someone agreed with you, is not an invitation to sex.
The other person owes you nothing, and vice versa. Just enjoy the moment. That is enough.